Episode 15: What Human Design Gave Me That Nothing Else Could
There are moments in life where something just doesn't quite add up. You're moving through the world, watching how other people seem to think, work, make decisions, and experience their life. And you're quietly wondering why your experience feels different. Not better. Not worse. Just different. Maybe it's the way you make decisions, the way you use your energy, the pace that feels natural to you. The things that matter to you.
You can't always explain it, but somewhere along the way, you've had the feeling that your experience of life is just different. What I want to sit with today is why so many people eventually find Human Design — and why, for some, it becomes much more than another framework. Because I don't think what people are actually looking for is another system. I think what they're looking for is something that finally helps them understand themselves.
Have you ever wondered why certain ways of living seem to work effortlessly for some people, but never quite feel right for you? This is something I toyed with for many years as I was on my own growth journey. When I first started, it was really about learning more about myself, learning more about different strategies and ways of operating.
As I was going through my journey, it just seemed like I was doing the same things as other people but getting different results. It didn't quite add up. So I'd read one strategy, follow someone else's framework as if it was going to work — and it never quite worked the way they said it would. That left me wondering: why? Why is this not working? Is there something about me?
Because when things aren't making sense, the natural tendency is to look outside of ourselves. We look at other people, their strategies, how they're doing things. How can I mimic someone else to get to what I define as success? And in that loop, we're always searching for that next answer. It perpetuates the personal development loop.
In that thought process, the conclusion we sometimes come to is: I am the problem. This strategy worked for someone else, so I must just not be doing it right. I need to work harder. Maybe I need to improve myself because I'm not good enough yet. Maybe I need to fix myself because something's broken. I need to learn more, look for more information. I just need to be better.
And so we continue. More books, more podcasts, more courses, more frameworks. What I found in my own journey was that I was always looking at other people — but I was never questioning whether the blueprint itself was the right one for me.
For me, it took a while to actually step back and wonder: am I just built a little bit differently? I picked up on this early in my career when I was in sales. In one of the organizations I was with, the expectation was to make 100 dials a day. That was the formula — follow the pattern, hit the numbers, see the success. I followed their framework, but I didn't see the same results. And I kept wondering: why is this not working? What is it about me?
Later in life, I learned that framework was simply not the right blueprint for me. It actually worked against who I am. I'm not a high-output, high-outreach type of person. Even though I was doing the numbers and putting in the effort, the energy behind it was holding me back from seeing the success I was watching my colleagues have — doing the exact same thing but getting completely different results.
While I was in that part of my journey, it was exhausting. A lot of burnout, a lot of drained days, wondering why I was so tired. A lot of negative self-talk about the results I wasn't getting based on patterns I was following from other people.
Maybe you've experienced something similar. Maybe you've wondered why something works for someone else but not for you. It could simply be that you've been using the wrong blueprint — following someone else's design when you have your own way of living and doing things. And when you honor that, things start to open up in the way they can for you.
It took me many years to stumble into Human Design. And when I did, that was the one thing that really changed things for me.
When I discovered Human Design, I finally felt recognized. It was the first time I could sit with a complete stranger — someone who looked at my chart — and they could tell me things about myself that I had always felt innately but never had words for. I felt truly seen. There was a sense of relief, like a weight had been lifted. Because it validated what I already knew: that I was built differently, that I was designed to do things a little differently than other people — but I had never had the language for it.
I didn't know what that really meant. I just had this inner knowing, this feeling that there was something else. And I attribute part of that to my personal growth journey — there was always a stone left unturned. But once I found Human Design, that's when I stopped looking outside, because it gave me a map to navigate my internal world.
When I discovered Human Design, it wasn't really about new information. It was about confirming what I had already known and been sensing. It allowed me to start trusting my inner knowing and to recognize that it was safe to do so. This was one of the first times I actually started to trust myself more innately. When I found this system, it really helped me understand how I'm meant to operate, how I'm meant to respond, how I make my best decisions. It became a great guide for moving through life more at my own pace.
It helped interrupt the belief that I was the problem, that I was broken, that I needed fixing. I came to realize: I'm not broken. I don't need to be fixed. I just need to operate more in alignment with who I am and how I've been built. And through that, life opens up in many different ways.
Through this process, I learned that I'm a Projector. In Human Design terms, Projectors are built a little differently than most of the population. Most people are Generators — they have that consistent life-force energy. Projectors don't have the same kind of energy. And that's why those sales environments with high outreach were burning me out — it was against my design. I'm not designed to work in that kind of high-volume capacity. My design is meant for one-on-one work, focused energy with others, guiding people in a more intimate and intentional way.
When I started to learn this, I felt more relief. Things were starting to click. Questions I'd had about myself, about life in general, were beginning to make sense. It gave me permission to trust myself more. It gave me a roadmap for how I make decisions and what choices are going to lead to my best life.
And then came the bigger realization: we're all built differently. I've always had this sense that we're all a little bit different, but I could never quite put my finger on it. That's actually one of the reasons I went down the path of neuroscience, psychology, physiology — all these different pathways — because I always had this inner knowing that we are more powerful than we're told. Human Design helped me understand that we really are built so much differently from each other.
It helped me stop measuring myself against someone else. Now, when I look at what someone else is doing, I ask myself: do they have a similar design to me? Because if they don't, all the power to them — but their strategy isn't one I can just mimic. It really helped me stop looking at other people's success as the standard or the roadmap, and start understanding that they have their own way of doing things, and so do I.
This is also how I've built my business. Earlier in my career, when I first got into coaching, I was following training that was actually more geared toward Generators — high output, a lot of content. That burned me out in a month or two. It was just too much. I wasn't able to deliver the depth and quality I really wanted to. All the business coaches out there were building for Generators, not for someone like me as a Projector. It took a while to break out of that mold — to allow myself to do things differently, to go against the hustle culture that's so prevalent right now. As a Projector, the hustle culture simply does not work.
It just gave me permission to trust myself more. To lean into who I am, to honor who I am, and to stop being so hard on myself. I'm not built like other people. I'm not getting the same results as other people because I'm just built differently. I cannot follow a Generator's strategy and expect the same level of success. It's just not possible. And the same goes in reverse.
When I learned this, everything just clicked. Everything started to make sense. That's why I've started to really integrate Human Design into my business and into the work I do with others — because it's so illuminating. It's so relieving, reassuring, validating. Who you are is perfectly fine as is. When I'm living in alignment with my design, I can really recognize: I'm built differently, and I don't need to compare myself to others. And that is genuinely freeing.
It's really freeing because it helped me stop believing I was the problem. The relationship with myself really changed.
So what changes after finding Human Design? A lot of the inner world changes. You stop comparing yourself to others as much — or when you do compare, it becomes more about curiosity. Are they built similarly to me? Not, they've done this strategy and seen success, so why can't I? The comparison becomes less of a weapon.
The self-talk changes. It becomes more forgiving, more compassionate, more understanding. You give yourself more grace. It becomes a much more peaceful relationship with yourself — which is one of the most important relationships we have in life.
It's a much more peaceful kind of relationship with ourselves. And it allows us to really stop looking outside and look inside. When we're looking outside of ourselves for answers, we believe we don't have the answer — and so we don't trust ourselves. That's what leads to the personal development loop I was talking about. But when we start looking inward for answers, we begin to develop a much more robust sense of self-trust. We believe ourselves more. We learn how to listen to ourselves and our bodies, what our bodies are telling us. We learn to trust the signals.
We stop outsourcing our own authority, our own decision-making, to other people. We learn to listen to ourselves. And in doing so, we start to open up a life that's more in alignment with who we are and who we want to become — a lifestyle that actually feels good.
When we do get advice from other people, it becomes something to consider rather than something to copy. We can use our own discernment to see if something really works for us or not. Because as we do this work, our own authority becomes the most important thing — not other people's opinions, but listening to yourself. You now have the ability and the know-how of what that looks like for you. You know how to listen to yourself, how to make decisions for yourself, what's true for you.
And with that trust, it just continues to compound. The more decisions we make in alignment with ourselves, the more we give ourselves permission to be different from other people — to just be ourselves and know that's okay.
It changes the way we relate to personal development too. It's not that you stop growing or stop taking in information from other people. But you stop trying to become someone else. You're not in it to fix yourself anymore or to do all these things because you think you're broken. It really becomes more about returning to yourself. The growth journey becomes: how can I honor myself more, who I am innately, and how can I allow myself to express that?
This is how I've built my business — around my Projector design, doing it my way. It's a much different pace than what I was used to, and there's some challenge to it. But when I'm living in line with this, it feels more true. If I try to do content, content, content, I'll burn myself out. Rebuilding my business this way has allowed me to have more ease, more flow, and to be more creative when I need to be.
Human Design became so integral for me because it wasn't just another thing to learn. It was the piece that was missing. It was the glue that made everything make sense. It was the mirror that allowed me to see who I truly am — to honor that, to allow it, to accept it, and to stop being so hard on myself. It supported my self-trust and made me less dependent on other people's advice and opinions.
I see this value in Human Design every time I work with someone new to it. They finally feel like someone sees them for who they are. They feel truly recognized. They have a blueprint for how they're meant to work, how they're meant to make decisions, how they're meant to live their life. They can see how other people may have influenced them in different ways. And it's really freeing. It's opening. It's like a permission slip.
The reason Human Design is part of the work I do is because it gives us the ability to come back to ourselves. One of my deepest passions has always been understanding human potential — understanding how we can really tap into what's available to us. I believe Human Design is one of the vehicles to help us get there. I believe it's one of the vehicles that helps us live in alignment with ourselves, create what we're here to create, and open up the opportunities that are meant for us.
It does take time. I've been working with my own design for about six or seven years now. I'm better at it — but I'm not perfect, because it's a journey. It's an experiment. It's something we experiment with daily, and we learn to trust more and more over time.
For the work that I do, I offer Integration Sessions — not readings. They're different. If you go to someone for a chart reading, they'll give you an overview of your type, your strategy, your authority, and a few other things. That information is valuable. But where I differ is that I help people actually live into their design. We discuss how it's showing up in your life and how to integrate it more fully. Whether Human Design is brand new to you or something you've been exploring for a while, it's really about the application — not just the learning.
As I wrap up here — as much as I am a supporter of Human Design, I don't want you to think it has all the answers. It doesn't. You have all the answers. Human Design is an opportunity to listen to yourself more. It's a vehicle to help you develop more self-trust and a deeper understanding of who you are. It gives you permission to change the way you live if something feels off — because there's a good chance that what feels off is connected to living out of alignment with your design. And through Human Design, you develop further self-trust so you can make the decisions that are true for you.
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If something in today's episode resonated with you — and you're curious about Human Design, or maybe you've had your chart for a while but still find it difficult to actually live it — that's exactly why I created the Human Design Integration Session. It isn't about giving you more information about your chart. It's about understanding how your design is already showing up in your life, where you may still be working against it, and what it can look like to begin living in more alignment with who you already are. If that feels like the next right step for you, you can book a Human Design Integration Session below.